SHOP TALK: In 2010 is the release of a Sextape really a threat?

January 28th, 2010  |  Published in Culture, Shop Talk  |  5 Comments

I’m grown and have been for a while now, so when comes to getting my “freak on” I gets it in, that means, I push my limitations sexually, and in this case electronically. No, not everyone gets the “business” but it does get doled out from time to time. Now with this disclaimer out of the way I shall get to the real grime.aiptek_pocketdv_8900_camcorder

A couple days ago I received a surprise irate message from some one I used to know. This man (I use this term loosely) was mad because unbeknownst to me, he sent to me a request for a pretty big favor via instant messenger. I never received the first message, so I never responded, which caused him to react immaturely. Against my better judgment I sent a reprimanding response to his second message for his childish tantrum, in which he decided to continue with his “you’re stupid, I’m better than you…blah blah blah” tirade and to spice things up “oh an your video is on some amatuer porn sites so don’t be surprised if you do get recognized lol!” This is an actual quote from the message that I was sent.

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I am not going to lie, a part of me got a little embarrassed, but then I remember thinking, wow, people still use that as a threat? I mean, this is not a solo video at all, he is very much present…and dare i say vocally enjoying the sexual acts being performed. So if he is not embarrassed with putting a video out with his “junk” prominently displayed, and comical audible satisfaction, why should I be. The video itself is over 5 years old, he still has it and quite frequently watches it, as he has admitted to me in the past, thinking that would turn me on in some way. We were never a couple, and over the past years when the urge to be “boo’d” up surfaced, he never was a prospect. Now I will admit that me stating this probably reflects poorly on me as much as him, but hey I’m grown, I can admit my mistakes. Five years ago I was definitely in a different state of mind.
I also realized that the initial panic that you get from that “threat” is not one of being in trouble but one of being told that you are horrible. I’m sure all of us think we know a thing or two in the sack and to have this notion be up for public review is kind of frightening. In my case the fear was short lived, because my “co-star” definitely wasn’t putting in much work.

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With all these stars making careers out of their sex tape exploitation, can the threat of a release even be scary now a days? What it really sounds like he’s saying is “I’m going to give you a different fan base!” I mean if he actually has or does decide to go through with this I guess be on the look out for the “Bombshell-Affairs” on the E! Channel Ala “Keeping up with the Kardasians.”

No but seriously just as a public service announcement to all of you, the only time the threat of a tape will cause a scandal of any sort is if the recording contains; a highly ranked/known government officials, A teeny bopper celebrity, some sort of homosexual activity (Strictly for the fellas) and some group sex type activity with a budding star.

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But how about this, how about enjoy whatever sexual activity you get from someone and when its over its over. Trying to throw sexual acts whether actually documented or not in some one’s face is a testament to how weak you are as an individual and also screams that you are not OVER them. You come across as being bitter, to more than half of your viewers and your sexual performance rating may actually end up causing you more embarrassment than you planned, can you say BACKFIRE?

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  1. aerialm says:

    February 1st, 2010at 1:07 pm(#)

    My only question is did you save that chat because when you get famous you can send him that script with a thank you note attached.

  2. Nefertari says:

    March 3rd, 2010at 4:11 pm(#)

    This is sad sis, I hope you have more respect for yourself now.

  3. "The Bombshell" says:

    March 3rd, 2010at 4:37 pm(#)

    I saved it for the purpose of this blog, but deleted it after, I think he got enough shine. Honestly I think he was blowing smoke, hoping to get a desparate reaction out of me, and when that did not happen he dropped it. But only time shall tell.

  4. "The Bombshell" says:

    March 3rd, 2010at 5:19 pm(#)

    Nefertari,
    I always respect myself and did then as much as I do now! Regardless of whether or not you want to admit it to the masses, everyone, including you I’m sure, has some sort of sexual documentation. A sex-text, racy pictures, a naughty voicemail, perhaps, all things done in the heat of the moment for you and him/her (not sure of your preference) to share privately. I mean honestly I can think of worst things I could be caught on tape doing, the first one coming to mind being voting for McCain/ Palin. Seriously though, what is sad about having fun sexually? I’m an adult and so was he, he just was not very mature. Am I not suppose to introduce sexy lingerie, toys or video cameras into MY bedroom, should I also not vary from the missionary position, out of fear of not “respecting” myself. I could have sworn we had a sexual revolution, that with women having more “pleasure parties” than tupperware parties, we have progressed just as much sexually as we have with our education and in the work force. Really what is sad here is how quickly you have jumped to the conclusion that I do not or did not respect myself, Sis. I’ve also noticed that with us women we usually pass judgement on other women who are BOLD enough to do things we wish we could do, so Sis be BOLD and try living outside the box a bit, sexually speaking. Just make sure its with someone who is mature and you can trust.
    Thanks for your comment!!!!

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