Black Intel

so…in the past week or so i have been having an ongoing convo with a  dear friend…no brother of mine who is an awesome guy…college educated…great sense of humor…incredibly intelligent…great dad…cool on the dance floor (hehe)…just an all around good guy (yes he has his flaws but dont we all?)…in the same time…well actually longer…i have been having a similar convo with my sister…the topic at hand you ask?  why (full) Black on (full) Black love very seldom last in our generation…a friend of mine posted an
article of a (full) Black on (full) Black couple who had been married for 84 years…me being in my…eehh er um…mid to late 20’s…ive already missed that option (i would have to live to be over

100!)…shoot…many of us can barely make the year mark…so here i have copied and pasted my response to my broham after he commented on my post assuming i was trying to say it was all the mans fault…quite contrary…i am definitely NOT one of those man hating women who thinks women are totally free of blame from all failed relationships…after all…there are always two sided to every story…enjoy…more to come…

…you need a hug? LOL!…i was not assigning any blame in this post (however…if you look down a few post…feel free to answer the question posed to men, hehe…) i was simply saying instead of sistas giving up all hope and calling it quits…look to the elder for inspiration…cause…its possible! though for many of us we are too old to hit that good 84 year mark…and i am not one to always side with women when it comes to failed relationships…i like to look at BOTH sides! so HA! yes…we hold on to things because those things affect us deeply while you all just dont give a rats a$$ at times (unless she sleeps with another man, then all hell breaks lose!)…men…no brothas need to realize that Black women are just as
sensitive, emotional, gentle and vulnerable as any other woman and should be treated with the utmost respect and care because JUST like you all are dealing with “the Black man struggle” (which i am not at
all discrediting, because i know you all have it hard) we have our own struggles and at the end of the day look to our men for understanding, compassion, and love. but i think you all are SO quick to think that just because we are strong Black women we dont need and yearn for those things. THATS where the fighting begins….neither side wants to be vulnerable and understanding of the others plight in the world…until we can do that for one another and learn to EFFECTIVELY communicate…we will never make it to the 84 year mark. this was a lot…but you know you cant make a statement like that without me coming back! LOL! see ya tonight broham!

*to clarify…i have (full) in parenthesis because for a lot of Black men…mixed women are replacing full Black women in their feeble attempt to say “she is Black…her daddy is Black”…or “she
identifies with Black”…i think and FULL Black woman can tell you that the treatment of a mixed race woman is 9 times out of 10 very different than that of a FULL Black woman based solely on the
assumptions and standards held by not only Black men, but Black
women…but thats for next month!

~stay classy